One of the most common pieces of advice for success is “Find someone who is already successful and emulate them”.
By this people usually mean “Do what that person does – and you will become successful too.”
As always, the focus is on the doing. But how about the “being” and the “feeling” part?
If we stop for a few seconds to think about it, the “doing” is just not enough. How many people do you know who do all the right things and yet don’t become as successful as they want to be? Or, conversely, you know people who do all the wrong things and yet they find success that makes their relatives bite their nails…
What is the difference between the first set and the second set?
To me, the difference that makes a difference is this: how those people FEEL… about everything really: themselves, others, the work, the world, their “chances”, failure, setbacks and on and on and on.
Which one do you think is more likely to succeed: a person who does things correctly but is profoundly insecure, or someone who messes up here and there but has an unshakable feeling of self-confidence?
Self-confidence is just the most obvious example but there are a million others, of course.
To go back to the beginning of this post, have you ever asked yourself this question: “How does my idol/role-model feel on a regular basis?”
It would be helpful to mull a little over that one. While doing so, you will discover your own “areas for improvement” – if you are not as successful as you would like to be.
The good news is that you can cultivate the feelings of a successful person before you actually have that success. Your own story will be different, of course and your own “constellation of successful feelings” will be different too.
For example, some people feel an immense sense of relief when they “make it”. For others, it is pride. For others still, it is contentment or ease.
By cultivating the “it feeling” that represents success for you, you will put yourself in the right mindset.
I’ve written a book with 33 such feelings. It’s free for download today.
Sunny skies and good feelings,