For most of my adult life I’ve had the impression that my inner life was a yo-yo. It started at some point around puberty. But it lasted a while…
I also had the impression that the wild mood swings I suffered came and went like the weather – on a whim of their own, upon which I did not have much control.
Of course, when I was in a “down spiral”, I struggled hard to get back up. Sometimes that struggle included beating up on myself for allowing myself to get so low.
By the way, do you notice the madness in this kind of thinking? On the one hand, I had the impression that my wild mood swings and changes in emotions had control over me. On the other hand, I beat myself over ALLOWING myself to go there… as if I actually HAD control over my feelings… Such is the landscape of inner war, of inner criticism and of inner instability.
In a country, economic stability is vital. It is also understood that things fluctuate. The point is to make the fluctuations small and manageable. Yes, there is a degree of control. A high one.
In the flight of birds and other air-borne critters, the stability achieved by their two (or more) wings allows them to soar. Again, two sides. Working in harmony.
In a relationship, stability looks like respect, trust and a solid foundation for a life together.
In a garden, stability comes through consistent work – the pulling of the weeds, the watering, the shading…
Whenever we think of happiness, we have the impression that it has to be off the walls, spectacular and glitzy.
Stability isn’t glitzy. But it makes everything grow – and thrive. It is not glitzy in the same way that breathing isn’t either.
Stability is the path to happiness – and it IS happiness itself.
Sometimes we mix up stability with boredom. They are certainly not one and the same. Stability is somewhat predictable, yes – but, to stick with the breathing example, you really want it to be.
Also, it takes great wisdom to know when and how to go back to the center.
So look at your life and see where it is stable. Appreciate this great blessing.
If things are not going as you want them to, in some ways, think of how you can create some stability there – emotional or otherwise. Perhaps you can come to peace with something – that’s stability.Just one example.
Stability is in the parent showing up every single day. It is in unwavering love for someone or something. It is in the changing of the seasons. It lives in the eyes of a devoted dog – and in the deliciousness of doing something, over and over again, knowing that it will always make you feel good. Over and over again.