Want to see the result of a good childhood? Take a look at this 17 y.o. guy.


When he got to the ripe ol’age of ten, he decided that public schooling was not for him. He “dropped out” and was homeschooled thereafter.

When he was about thirteen, he decided that he was going to be a self-published author – a successful one at that. He achieved that goal in less than a year but he says that for two years he struggled because he wasn’t making much money with his writing. But three years later he started making (are you ready for it?) $4,000 a month with his best-selling books. Yes, four thousand. That is not a typo.

He is seventeen now and when you see him, you have the impression you are in front of a real, live case of body snatching: the words coming out of his mouth sound like they are coming from someone who is forty or older. But he is still a teen – clearly looks like one.

He credits his success to never giving up – he made up his mind he wanted something and then just went for it. He says he’s made lots of “mistakes” on the way but he has no regrets, because he had fun and he’s learned a lot.

I saw Mark Messick in an interview online. He baffled me with his eloquence, his sense of confidence and his results. Yes, I am impressed with his career but I am blown away by his upbringing.

As far as I am concerned, he really proved ALL of the points I was making in “Your Inner Child is a Winner“. Every single one of them!

  1. There is an inner “sap” inside us humans that guides us towards whatever is good and nourishing for us. If nurtured, this connection will lead to a happy, thriving life. If thwarted… we have depression, anxiety, mood-swings, violence, acting out… and on and on.
  2. Children are born naturally confident. There are no self-esteem issues because the self has a healthy esteem for itself! It is so natural that it is not an issue. Of course, to most adults (whose sense of self has been thwarted), children seen overly confident. Which is why they often try to bring them down.
  3. Children are wired for adventure and they are not afraid to “fail”. They are not afraid to jump in and try – and try again. This is how they learn to walk, talk, eat and just about everything else. How does it become so wrong to try and (gasp!) “fail”?
  4. Human beings are flexible creatures. This kid, Mark, wants to be funny too. Because nobody’s told him yet that he has to pick and choose, he does his writing AND he’s trying stand-up comedy.
  5. Kids are not afraid of the world. They think the world is fun. Fun, in fact, is the name of the game.

You can find Mark at www.torchtherules.com.


Three Essentials for a Good Feeling Parenting Experience

mother hands and baby feet

mother hands and baby feetI haven’t been a mother that long. My son is only two years-old. But in these two years I have changed and learned more than in the previous decade.

Granted, it’s a bit early to draw some conclusions and that’s not what this is about. Rather, these are some thoughts about parenting that I don’t think I’ll ever change. They are, for me, essentials.


1. What other people think about your parenting is their business, not yours.

New parents are particularly vulnerable to this one. When you first become a parent, everyone has a “THIS is absolutely how you do it” recipe for wiping, feeding, burping, playing, walking, sleeping and so on. It’s good to listen sometimes but, in the end, it’s YOUR experience so savor it – according to YOU.

2. Let your child be who he or she is.

No matter how your child (or his or her personality) is, just accept and love him or her without trying to change them. For example, don’t try to force social connections on a shy kid.

3. Remember that what your child needs the most is your love.

Sometimes we parents want so much to teach our children manners, maths, foreign languages, politics and musical instruments that we lose sight of the fact that none of these matter if your child does not feel loved.

C.M. Ellis